Lover vs Sovereign
The Lover and the Sovereign are two of the ten archetypes in InnerOS. The Lover wants to feel close. The Sovereign wants to take responsibility and make the call. They are not two kinds of people. They are two parts of you, and both are always there.
The Lover
Your Inner Connector
"I long to be close. I do not need to be completed. I want to feel what is true between us."
Connection, Intimacy, Feeling, Vulnerability
Read about the Lover archetypeThe Sovereign
Your Inner Ruler
"This is my place. I decide what happens here, and I answer for it."
Authority, Responsibility, Leadership, Decision
Read about the Sovereign archetype
When Lover and Sovereign pull apart
The Lover gives in. The Sovereign takes charge. The Lover wants to merge. The Sovereign wants to stay independent. In a relationship the Lover may give away too much power, and the Sovereign may hold too much.
How they help each other
Together they make equal love: two people who choose each other from strength, not need. The Lover softens the Sovereign's loneliness. The Sovereign gives the Lover a healthy hold on themselves.
One small thing to try
Love from a full cup, not an empty one. Lead your own heart before you hand it over. Close bonds work best between two whole people.
Hear them for yourself
In InnerOS you write what is on your mind, and your parts answer, one at a time. Any of the ten can speak. The free quiz takes about three minutes and shows which part is loudest right now. When you want to talk with them, InnerOS is free to try for 14 days.
Take the quizWhich one is louder in you?
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Questions about the Lover and the Sovereign
What is the difference between the Lover and the Sovereign archetype?
The Lover and the Sovereign are two of the ten archetypes in InnerOS. The Lover wants to feel close. The Sovereign wants to take responsibility and make the call. They are not two kinds of people. They are two parts of you, and both are always there.
Can the Lover and the Sovereign work together?
Yes. Together they make equal love: two people who choose each other from strength, not need. The Lover softens the Sovereign's loneliness. The Sovereign gives the Lover a healthy hold on themselves.
Do I have to choose between the Lover and the Sovereign?
No. Both live in you. You do not have to pick a winner. You can listen to each one, then decide what to do next. The free quiz shows which part is loudest right now.